In 2013, Tahir contributed more than US$100 million to the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, an organization that provides funding for efforts to fight major diseases such as HIV/AIDS, Tuberculosis, polio and malaria.

“My son-in-law is forbidden to enter my business,” Mochtar Riady told Dato’ Sri Prof. Dr.  Tahir, just two weeks after he married  Rosy Riady, the tycoon’s eldest daughter on March 23, 1974. It was shocking to him because the 22-year-old man was Mochtar’s own choice according to the wishes of Rosy’s grandmother.

Rosy, the eldest of Mochtar’s six children, is one year younger than her husband.  It was an arranged marriage.

A week after his marriage, Mochtar told Tahir about his principle that none of his in-laws were allowed to join his businesses. However, the owner of the  Mayapada Group said he was not surprised at all by Mochtar’s blunt warning.

“I didn’t mind what he was trying to say. It’s the way he said it that surprised me. It was brief, straightforward, without any introduction, more like a conversation between a boss and his subordinate,” the Indonesian of Chinese descent said.

When the two got married, Rosy was the daughter of a bank owner in Jakarta. Meanwhile Tahir, who was born on March 26, 1952, was the son of a clothing shop owner in Surabaya. The two did not know each other beforehand, so the marriage was like a dream for Tahir and his life afterward was something he had never imagined.

“I entered a new life that I could never have guessed before what it would be like. All I thought of was a light [of a brighter life]. I never realized that from that moment on, I would experience an enormous inner battle adapting to the culture of Riady’s family,” he said.

 Tahir and Rosy’s marriage was arranged by Rosy’s grandmother, who picked him as his family originally comes from the same village in Fujian province, China, as her.

In an interview with The Jakarta Post at his office building on Jl. Sudirman, South Jakarta, earlier this month, Tahir talked about various issues, including his bittersweet experience as the son-in-law of the legendary banker and his relationship with his in-laws.

During the conversation he repeatedly emphasized his respect toward Mochtar and acknowledged that the name of his father-in-law alone was very helpful for him in beginning his own business empire. However, he didn’t hide his feelings that even until now, he still has difficulties fully understanding the family of his wife.

In the early years of his marriage, Tahir promised himself that he would prove his word to Mochtar; that he would be much better than his father-in-law.

So what did Tahir get from the founder of the  Lippo Group giant?

“In terms of material benefits, the answer is nothing,” the father of two daughters and one son said in his biography Living Sacrifice. The book was launched in a ceremony on Wednesday. It was attended by  high-profile national figures, including Indonesia’s third president B.J. Habibie and property magnate Ciputra.

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In 2013, Tahir contributed more than US$100 million to the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, an organization that provides funding for efforts to fight major diseases such as HIV/AIDS, Tuberculosis, polio and malaria.

'€œMy son-in-law is forbidden to enter my business,'€ Mochtar Riady told Dato'€™ Sri Prof. Dr.  Tahir, just two weeks after he married  Rosy Riady, the tycoon'€™s eldest daughter on March 23, 1974. It was shocking to him because the 22-year-old man was Mochtar'€™s own choice according to the wishes of Rosy'€™s grandmother.

Rosy, the eldest of Mochtar'€™s six children, is one year younger than her husband.  It was an arranged marriage.

A week after his marriage, Mochtar told Tahir about his principle that none of his in-laws were allowed to join his businesses. However, the owner of the  Mayapada Group said he was not surprised at all by Mochtar'€™s blunt warning.

'€œI didn'€™t mind what he was trying to say. It'€™s the way he said it that surprised me. It was brief, straightforward, without any introduction, more like a conversation between a boss and his subordinate,'€ the Indonesian of Chinese descent said.

When the two got married, Rosy was the daughter of a bank owner in Jakarta. Meanwhile Tahir, who was born on March 26, 1952, was the son of a clothing shop owner in Surabaya. The two did not know each other beforehand, so the marriage was like a dream for Tahir and his life afterward was something he had never imagined.

'€œI entered a new life that I could never have guessed before what it would be like. All I thought of was a light [of a brighter life]. I never realized that from that moment on, I would experience an enormous inner battle adapting to the culture of Riady'€™s family,'€ he said.

 Tahir and Rosy'€™s marriage was arranged by Rosy'€™s grandmother, who picked him as his family originally comes from the same village in Fujian province, China, as her.

In an interview with The Jakarta Post at his office building on Jl. Sudirman, South Jakarta, earlier this month, Tahir talked about various issues, including his bittersweet experience as the son-in-law of the legendary banker and his relationship with his in-laws.

During the conversation he repeatedly emphasized his respect toward Mochtar and acknowledged that the name of his father-in-law alone was very helpful for him in beginning his own business empire. However, he didn'€™t hide his feelings that even until now, he still has difficulties fully understanding the family of his wife.

In the early years of his marriage, Tahir promised himself that he would prove his word to Mochtar; that he would be much better than his father-in-law.

So what did Tahir get from the founder of the  Lippo Group giant?

'€œIn terms of material benefits, the answer is nothing,'€ the father of two daughters and one son said in his biography Living Sacrifice. The book was launched in a ceremony on Wednesday. It was attended by  high-profile national figures, including Indonesia'€™s third president B.J. Habibie and property magnate Ciputra.