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Watch out for red flags: Your online date might be a sexual predator

  • Sebastian Partogi

    Jakarta

Jakarta   /   Mon, October 5 2020   /  01:15 am
Stay alert: Sexual predators often lurk around online platforms in search of victims. If your online date is excessively charming and sexually aggressive even in the very initial phase of your courtship, these are red flags that this person might be a sexual predator.(Shutterstock/Have a nice day Photo)

Online dating is not without its dangers. Although data documenting predatory sexual behavior online is not yet available in Indonesia, many women have come forward with their experiences of being sexually harassed by an online date. One of them is Talitha (all names have been changed to protect privacy), a 38-year-old English teacher in Jakarta. In 2017, when she was heartbroken, tremendously stressed at work and feeling lonely in her boarding house, she met a man through a Facebook poetry community. She said the man was highly charming and very handsome. She felt a sense of affinity with the man since they both were writing poetry about their heartbreak. “He complimented me, asking how a woman as beautiful as myself was still single,” Talitha told The Jakarta Post. Little did Talitha realize that the man was merely playing victim and faking his heartbreak to gai...