The first three months with a new baby, regardless of whether or not it is the first time, are not easy. A survey by Orlando Health confirmed that 40 percent of women experience anxiety and depression in the weeks following delivery. 

Featuring 1,229 women, the survey additionally found that 63 percent of new moms care about their well-being just as much as they care about the babies, yet 37 percent (18 to 34 years old) prioritize their baby’s health over their own. These women do not seek medical advice because of shame and embarrassment -- one-third of them said they were embarrassed of their bodies after childbirth, reported Parents magazine. 

Megan Gray, an OB/GYN at Orlando Health Winnie Palmer Hospital for Women and Babies, said she wished that more women knew about the challenges of the fourth trimester (the period of time in which a newborn baby learns to adapt to the outside world, which usually lasts for three months) and that seeking help is perfectly fine.

"Those first few months after you deliver are a learning experience and if you're feeling overwhelmed, you're not alone,” she said.

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She added that it is important for women to look after themselves after a delivery, even if it may seem impossible when the baby needs plenty of attention. 

A California-based psychologist certified in perinatal mental health, Katayune Kaeni, said that motherhood requires change and transition, as well as emotional and physical challenges.

However, as important as it is for mothers to check on themselves, it all depends on the mother’s preference. Kaeni said that not all mothers are the same. "Some need a break from their baby, some don't; all of that is OK."

Self-care itself can be as simple as asking someone for help or listening to music. (vit/kes)