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When forgiveness is easier said than done

  • Sebastian Partogi

    The Jakarta Post

Jakarta   /   Wed, May 27 2020   /  01:40 am

Forgiveness can sound like the spiritual version of a Nike ad: everyone tells you to “just do it”, without showing you how to. As the spirit of Idul Fitri is still on the air and the COVID-19 pandemic forces us to examine the things that really matter in life, can forgiveness be more than just words, especially when we have been hurt by those we love the most?

Aryo, 28, and Sari, 32, had their hopes for dream marriages abruptly shattered before their eyes. Aryo’s wife filed for divorce three months after they got married in early 2019, while Sari’s fiancé and his family cancelled the wedding just a month shy of the ceremony.

Neither of them sensed anything was wrong prior to the abrupt terminations. Apparently their partners cheated on them.

Aryo said his former in-laws accused him of spreading rumors about his wife’s adultery – something he said was not...