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Are you in love with a narcissist?

  • Sebastian Partogi

    Jakarta

Jakarta   /   Fri, November 20 2020   /  11:38 pm
Putting on a front: An illustration of narcissism shows the sense of superiority and importance that stems from deep-seated feelings of insecurity and insignificance. This leads to a tendency to treat other people dismissively and with condescension, which are the hallmarks of narcissism, a type of personality disorder.(Shutterstock/Prazis Images/epost-robot)

From the outside, Tina’s (not her real name) life looks perfect. At 45, she is in her prime, enjoying her career as a reputable creative content director at a prominent Jakarta agency. Her clients from various industries and institutions are always raving about the “genius” offline and online marketing campaigns she has helped design, all guaranteed to become a success. Yet, beneath this facade, she has recently survived a painful and abusive relationship with a narcissistic boyfriend, now ex. “Despite my professional achievements, I secretly felt empty inside all the time, because my parents never praised me for my attainments. Instead, they always put me down and I’m never enough for them. My father even told me that what I had achieved was nothing [compared to him], as he had already become the director of a multinational company by the time he w...