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The survivors of dating app violence

  • Permata Adinda

    Jakarta

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Jakarta   /   Wed, February 24 2021   /  01:00 am
In this photo illustration, the icon for the dating app Tinder is seen on the screen of an iPhone. The lack of education within the justice system about mobile applications has resulted in victim-blaming for survivors of abuse who met their abusers through such apps. (AFP/Getty Images/ Joe Raedle)

Warning: The following article contains descriptions of rape, emotional abuse and forced abortion. To her friends, Shara is a bright and exceptionally funny woman. That’s also what the man she met on Tinder told her. He liked her, he said, because she was talkative and had a way of entertaining him.  Shara, 28, used the dating app Tinder because of social pressure. Almost all her friends were married and had children. They told her to get a boyfriend, teasingly saying she was gay. Busy with work, a relationship didn’t feel like a priority for Shara. She found herself awkward around men and had only gone on one date. But after she installed Tinder, one man caught her attention. He was easy to talk to and shared her interests. The chemistry between them grew, and the chats became more intense, eventually graduating to video calls. They then met in person for lu...