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Child-free and happy: A group for Indonesians without kids – by choice

Shared experience: Author Victoria Tunggono, 37, wrote Childfree & Happy based on her own experience as well as fourteen other individuals. (JP/Courtesy of Victoria Tunggono)
Amahl S. Azwar
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Jakarta   ●   Thu, April 15 2021

Many Indonesian women consider getting pregnant a blessing – a miracle, even. But for Maya, a 32-year-old linguist, it would be more like a curse. 

Maya, who lives in Singapore and asked to be identified only by her nickname, worries that her family will discover her choice to remain childless if her real name is revealed. She and her husband have been married for six years and, like most Indonesians, face expectations that they will have children.

“When a family member offers a prayer for us to have kids, we just smile and thank them,” she said.    

Maya said a childhood trauma caused her to sometimes engage in harmful behaviors toward her partner and herself. Her husband suffers from a hereditary disease that began showing its symptoms as he entered his late 20s.

The risk of passing on her trauma and ...

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